Know what you want

I was listening to the radio today and Ed Lover was quoting something from Reverand Run (as in DMC). He was saying that you should focus on what you want and God will give it to you. You need to really focus on it because whatever it appears to be is what will be given. If you want a friend with benefits, that's what he'll give you. If you want a loving partner for marriage, that's what he'll give you. You just have to know what you want and focus on it.
So did I want to meet all these assholes all my life? Was that what I was truly focused on so that's why I got it? I was just thinking that perhaps I didn't respect myself in the past and that's how I ended up with the people I did. Do I respect myself now? That's the question. If you don't respect yourself, you allow yourself to be mistreated when otherwise you would never allow it.