Saturday, January 28, 2012
hair today, gone tomorrow
so not sure if i discussed this before but they say during pregnancy you have the thickest hair ever and your nails are strong and grow longer than ever before mostly due to the prenatal vitamins and maybe due to harmones. i never really had problems in the nail department before so pre-, during and post- seem the same to me. as for hair, my theory is my hair got thicker only because it just didn't fall out like it usually did, which is quite a strange phenomenon. i know my past roommates used to complain about how much i would shed...clog up the vacuum cleaner and the shower drain...carpets full of hair...tumbleweeds of hair rolling across the hardwood floors. While I was pregnant, it seems like none of my hair fell out so it was thicker in that respect - I had too much hair - it felt so thick I wanted to shave my head - it didn't feel like the shampoo was penetrating through. it was strange. a couple months after birth, i really did want to cut off all my hair - i thought...oh oh now i see why moms get mom hair cuts - too much hassle - it's in the way. I was contemplating getting the modern day mullet. Either I would look like a lesbian- which would totally blend in in my hood - or I would look like a Japanese wannabe. I didn't cut my hair yet since I was contemplating where to go and then in maybe the baby's 3rd month, his hair and my hair started falling out. He lost most of his original baby hair which was so thick and beautiful - all of sudden he had hair like an aging baby boomer...thinning...patches of scalp...what was happening? the doc said that it was totally normal to lose hair and since his head was growing bigger and his hair not growing back as fast, he was looking more bald than ever before. As for me, the hair is shedding probably the same as it used to pre-pregnancy. At one point, it was a crazy lot but it's balanced out. Now I don't have the urge to shave my head because it's feeling kind of like normal. However I do sometimes feel like cutting it off since now the baby is in the grabbing things stage where he's pulling out sections of my hair daily. ouch.. As for baby, I see he has a few strands of his original hair left - those are about 2 inches longer than the rest of his head..but I don't want to cut them off just yet...and like i said they're only a few strands so i prefer to keep his original baby hair there. For some reason I want to prolong his first hair cut as much as possible..maybe that just means i don't want him to get so big so fast...he is almost 6 months old already...before you know it, he'll be taller than me.
Wednesday, January 25, 2012
rollover
so the baby rolled from his front to his back or actually from back to front to back again. I discounted it the first time i saw it thinking it was a fluke a couple of weeks ago. but tonight he rolled over twice. pretty soon he will be rolling off the bed and the sofa. he might roll into our faux fireplace since his playmat is near there. danger will be lurking in every corner.
tonight the hubby is meeting up with friends, and i am alone with baby. times like these, i think about what if i was a single parent? how do those moms or dads do it alone? if i wasn't blessed to be able to work from home, i would definitely need daycare or a nanny. money would be tight on 1 income so i'd probably be living with my parents or at least closer to them. i think i'd be a walking zombie - late night feedings, entertaining baby, house chores, working, etc. i mean sometimes i feel really tired and i do have a hubby helping out. so i give single parents a lot of credit.
although, i must say that sometimes having a hubby is like having a 2nd child. hubby, if you read this, please don't take offense - you did admit this once yourself. they need as much attention as the baby and you can't forget to tend to both. my relationship was pretty fast paced so we didn't have much of a "honeymoon" period to enjoy each other's company solo without pregnancy or without baby. and i don't know if it's harder to adjust to or easier since it was such a whirlwind. but those baby books do mention that sometimes hubbies will get jealous of baby. i don't think that's the case here, but having a baby does change the dynamics of a relationship and you have to work at it to keep the equilibrium, which has been a total learning process.
tonight the hubby is meeting up with friends, and i am alone with baby. times like these, i think about what if i was a single parent? how do those moms or dads do it alone? if i wasn't blessed to be able to work from home, i would definitely need daycare or a nanny. money would be tight on 1 income so i'd probably be living with my parents or at least closer to them. i think i'd be a walking zombie - late night feedings, entertaining baby, house chores, working, etc. i mean sometimes i feel really tired and i do have a hubby helping out. so i give single parents a lot of credit.
although, i must say that sometimes having a hubby is like having a 2nd child. hubby, if you read this, please don't take offense - you did admit this once yourself. they need as much attention as the baby and you can't forget to tend to both. my relationship was pretty fast paced so we didn't have much of a "honeymoon" period to enjoy each other's company solo without pregnancy or without baby. and i don't know if it's harder to adjust to or easier since it was such a whirlwind. but those baby books do mention that sometimes hubbies will get jealous of baby. i don't think that's the case here, but having a baby does change the dynamics of a relationship and you have to work at it to keep the equilibrium, which has been a total learning process.
Monday, January 23, 2012
how do they do it?
How do nurse's aides clean adult diapers daily? I have trouble with my little one sometimes and he's not even on solids yet. I am scared of what the future holds. EEww. Apparently you get used to it? I'm sorry - this is probably a topic most people do not want to read about.
I'll move on to another British English to American English translation:
Fancy Dress Party = Costume Party
If someone invited me to a fancy dress party, I would assume I needed to wear something fancy like a cocktail dress not a night of the living dead zombie outfit.
And along the party theme line:
Hen Party = Bachelorette Party
Is that where the slang for girls, "chicks", stems from?
The little man just passed out sitting on my lap. Yes I am typing with one hand at the moment. It's how I spend most of my work day if he's in a mood and has to be carried. He sure does get grumpy without a nap. But some days he just does not want to go to sleep during the day. Maybe he's afraid he'll miss out on something exciting. Or more often, I am carrying him when he falls asleep and when I put him down, he wakes up in 10-15 minutes. I suppose this means I should try to be more disciplined with naps and put him down at a certain time each day so he could fall asleep on his own. I think you're supposed to do that for night sleep as well...I think that it's easier said than done. I just put him down in his bassinet. Let's see how long he'll nap for.
So I used to make New Year's resolutions all the time but would pretty much forget about them 3 months into the year. One thing I always try to do every year is travel some place that I've never been before - could be a foreign country or it could be local. Maybe I don't always do it, but most of the time I do. Last year - I went to England for the first time. This year - well I might be going to England again for Christmas but maybe I'll get to visit a different town. There's also a lot of places at home that I've always wanted to go to but haven't - like the Frick Museum or the Sculpture Center in LIC or try out one of those doubledecker bus tours. And there's always a new restaurant that beckons to be visited.
And although I officially stopped making resolutions, I do in the back of my head always come up with things that I think would be good to do - like get back to my Rosetta Stone French Lessons, workout or clear out more of my closet. The Christmas present I requested from my parents this year was Zumba for Wii and I would say it's a pretty good workout - you dance for an hour straight for a full workout, it doesn't seem like exercise since you're dancing not doing straight up calisthenics or the like, and it does make you sweat. My salsa moves come in handy. Now that my clubbing days seem to be over and done with, it's the only way I can get my dance on these days. Ha. I tried a real zumba class last week at a dance studio (thanks to a gift certificate my sis got me for my bday) and it was fun. I'll be going again tonight and maybe the next 2 Mondays which is when my pass runs out. But maybe I'll keep taking it after that since it's only $10 a class. It get's me out of the house for a little bit, I feel like I'm doing something healthy and it's a nice break when you work from home all the days.
As I finish writing today's blog, the baby is actually still asleep, but since it's late afternoon - maybe that will mean he won't sleep later tonight....ohoh
I'll move on to another British English to American English translation:
Fancy Dress Party = Costume Party
If someone invited me to a fancy dress party, I would assume I needed to wear something fancy like a cocktail dress not a night of the living dead zombie outfit.
And along the party theme line:
Hen Party = Bachelorette Party
Is that where the slang for girls, "chicks", stems from?
The little man just passed out sitting on my lap. Yes I am typing with one hand at the moment. It's how I spend most of my work day if he's in a mood and has to be carried. He sure does get grumpy without a nap. But some days he just does not want to go to sleep during the day. Maybe he's afraid he'll miss out on something exciting. Or more often, I am carrying him when he falls asleep and when I put him down, he wakes up in 10-15 minutes. I suppose this means I should try to be more disciplined with naps and put him down at a certain time each day so he could fall asleep on his own. I think you're supposed to do that for night sleep as well...I think that it's easier said than done. I just put him down in his bassinet. Let's see how long he'll nap for.
So I used to make New Year's resolutions all the time but would pretty much forget about them 3 months into the year. One thing I always try to do every year is travel some place that I've never been before - could be a foreign country or it could be local. Maybe I don't always do it, but most of the time I do. Last year - I went to England for the first time. This year - well I might be going to England again for Christmas but maybe I'll get to visit a different town. There's also a lot of places at home that I've always wanted to go to but haven't - like the Frick Museum or the Sculpture Center in LIC or try out one of those doubledecker bus tours. And there's always a new restaurant that beckons to be visited.
And although I officially stopped making resolutions, I do in the back of my head always come up with things that I think would be good to do - like get back to my Rosetta Stone French Lessons, workout or clear out more of my closet. The Christmas present I requested from my parents this year was Zumba for Wii and I would say it's a pretty good workout - you dance for an hour straight for a full workout, it doesn't seem like exercise since you're dancing not doing straight up calisthenics or the like, and it does make you sweat. My salsa moves come in handy. Now that my clubbing days seem to be over and done with, it's the only way I can get my dance on these days. Ha. I tried a real zumba class last week at a dance studio (thanks to a gift certificate my sis got me for my bday) and it was fun. I'll be going again tonight and maybe the next 2 Mondays which is when my pass runs out. But maybe I'll keep taking it after that since it's only $10 a class. It get's me out of the house for a little bit, I feel like I'm doing something healthy and it's a nice break when you work from home all the days.
As I finish writing today's blog, the baby is actually still asleep, but since it's late afternoon - maybe that will mean he won't sleep later tonight....ohoh
Thursday, January 12, 2012
Future Drummer?
The baby won't stop kicking. We bought this foam floor mat to put on our wood floor so it would be more comfortable for the baby to lie on, instead of just a blanket, since he's turning over now. But lately when we put him there, all he does is kick down on the floor - mainly his right foot over and over. I wonder if it's driving my downstairs neighbors crazy. Must be annoying to hear a constant thumping. I thought the foam would help absorb the sound but not so sure it does. At night in his crib, he does the same kicking and on the mattress it sounds like a bass drum. Hard to ignore. He must burn a lot of energy.
So the question has come up - we've thought about it, people have asked. Do we have another baby? Is it bad or is it selfish only to have one child? The other day at my friend's son's birthday party, there was a girl there about 12 years old who was an only child. And she mentioned that it was lonely. It is lonely unless you have peers or family the same age that you hang with often. My cousin and I grew up together and we were basically like siblings because we saw each other practically every day up until high school. In that instance, I think you would be ok as a solo child. Here in Brooklyn, I don't really know anyone with kids for my son to play with. As for family, they don't really live close by and most of the kids are much older. Not to mention, I am getting older, so the longer I wait, the more high risk a new pregnancy becomes. My one friend who is the same age as me just had her 2nd baby and it was really a difficult pregnancy: bed rest/early birth/etc. That is kind of worrisome to me. Also, we would definitely have to move - there's no space in a 1 bedroom for 2 kids, let alone the space issues we have with 1. Hmm, things to think about.
So the question has come up - we've thought about it, people have asked. Do we have another baby? Is it bad or is it selfish only to have one child? The other day at my friend's son's birthday party, there was a girl there about 12 years old who was an only child. And she mentioned that it was lonely. It is lonely unless you have peers or family the same age that you hang with often. My cousin and I grew up together and we were basically like siblings because we saw each other practically every day up until high school. In that instance, I think you would be ok as a solo child. Here in Brooklyn, I don't really know anyone with kids for my son to play with. As for family, they don't really live close by and most of the kids are much older. Not to mention, I am getting older, so the longer I wait, the more high risk a new pregnancy becomes. My one friend who is the same age as me just had her 2nd baby and it was really a difficult pregnancy: bed rest/early birth/etc. That is kind of worrisome to me. Also, we would definitely have to move - there's no space in a 1 bedroom for 2 kids, let alone the space issues we have with 1. Hmm, things to think about.
Monday, January 09, 2012
Excavation Work
Who knew I would get so much satisfaction from clearing out the baby's nasal passages. That's just a nice way of saying the baby's nose has been stuffed up a lot lately and I've been picking out the boogies and damn it feels like quite an achievement to get one out. It truly is gratifying to be able to use that aspirator successfully and help the baby breath a little better. Odd?
Boy has my life changed. My colleague asked me the other day if I had big plans this weekend and I responded that I had a 1 year old birthday party to attend. Ha. Have I been excommunicated from my previous social circles? I feel like it sometimes. But as a friend of the family mentioned on New Year's day, it is great that I did get to live my single life to the hilt (in other words - she meant I started a family pretty late in life and yes I was able to enjoy singledom for quite sometime before all these new "responsibilities"). And now I can experience a new phase in my life - marriage and motherhood. Who knew 2 men would steal my heart? You really never can predict what the future holds sometimes.
Boy has my life changed. My colleague asked me the other day if I had big plans this weekend and I responded that I had a 1 year old birthday party to attend. Ha. Have I been excommunicated from my previous social circles? I feel like it sometimes. But as a friend of the family mentioned on New Year's day, it is great that I did get to live my single life to the hilt (in other words - she meant I started a family pretty late in life and yes I was able to enjoy singledom for quite sometime before all these new "responsibilities"). And now I can experience a new phase in my life - marriage and motherhood. Who knew 2 men would steal my heart? You really never can predict what the future holds sometimes.
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